You have probably heard me talking a lot about Guardians in past workshops and webinars as I feel it’s such an important subject.

So, what are Guardians?

They are the kindest people in the world who take on the responsibility of caring for our children when we are no longer able to do so. It’s a difficult topic to discuss, but one that we must all face.

Many heartbreaking stories have been shared with us, which is why we encourage parents to carefully consider who they would like to take on the role.

In the past, it was often the child’s godparents who stepped in as Guardians, but today the decision has to be carefully considered.

When David was young, I had my mum as his chosen Guardian, this worked fine for a number of years until my mum’s age meant it had to change. Then I thought about my own siblings and again this worked well for another ten years or more.

I am now at the stage where David’s siblings are in their twenties, and because they have lived all their lives with David and are now moving on to do their own things, which I encourage, they are the ones who have come to me asking about David’s future.

I’m very lucky and in a privileged position that they both want to look after David, but of course, I hope it’s not for a very long time. I feel a responsibility to let my other children live the lives they want to live, so it’s not only David I think about but all my children. (It sounds like I have dozens; I only have three !!).

Sean and Kate have thought about Davids’s future and have spoken to me about it. I have also written this in my letter of wishes and given it to them.

When you are choosing your guardians, the most important thing to do is to have an open and honest conversation with them. Don’t assume that your sister or brother will automatically accept the role. It’s crucial to ask them and hear their response, even if it’s a “NO.”

I recommend having this conversation outside of casual times. This is a serious subject that requires careful consideration.

It’s also important to note that you must choose two guardians, and they can also be the same as the trustees if you wish. We’ve created a guardian booklet that includes a few questions and steps that may help both parents and new guardians.

Some parents may feel stressed about this decision, but once it’s done, many find it to be a peace of mind. We never know what the future holds, but we can ensure that our children are safeguarded as much as possible. Choosing guardians may not be an easy task, but it’s one that is necessary to protect our children.

And in my case, which I’m sure you feel too, I hope it’s not for a very long time.